Talks about Locker Rooms

Where the Boys Are:  Teenage Masculinity

 Alexis Jones: Locker Room Talk --  Says Who?      

                                                                       

In the Ted Talk, I was listening to Alexis Jones talk about "Locker room talk." Says who?She argues that teen boys are so influenced by outside media and how they surround themselves with people that make accusations without knowing how to teach teen boys how to treat women or teen girls. Alexis actually believes that media, other people thinking for others, and porn is just causing to have a good bond with girls. Also, she wants to understand how we should be working together and should be putting a stop to what’s going on inside the locker room and even outside of it too.

When I watch this Ted Talk, I honestly watch it repeatedly because I can connect emotionally to how we are so fed up with the very little to no information about the world and not letting teens come up with their own opinions. The part that really got me was when she was talking about schools should be implicated emotional part of teens lives. I never had a reason why I did some things, but that part of your speech was so mind blowing, and her talk pulled me in with all the stories and reasons. Also, I like when she connected everything back to what she use to do that brought her here today.

My question to this Ted Talk is,

How would teen boys be stopped by information that is given and come up with their own opinion? I question that because I never start creating my own opinions until I went to college. It is actually easy to be influenced by other people because we are so used to being in the norms and wanting to be like others and not creating our own opinion.

Orenstein, from Cinderella Ate My Daughter; Douglas, from Enlightened Sexism

This week I’m going to be doing an extension post on one of my classmate's blogs her name is Lexi’s. Here is her post on this week’s two reading we read to create our posts.

In her post-Lexi argues, “from thinking about tv shows and movies, are we still heading on a progressive path, away from shows like "The Bachelor."  Are we watching these shows because we think they are funny because people actually act this way or are we using these shows as a base for our lives?”

I agree with what Lexi’s argues, as while as Orenstein, from Cinderella Ate My Daughter. These shows teach teenage girls that getting men to look at you involves dressing up, putting makeup on, and most of all show men that you are better than other women by doing things to impress the men.

When Lexi brought up the point from the other article about

Douglas, from Enlightened Sexism

 She stated that “Douglas continues to discuss how media influences the population. Many shows specifically on MTV (reality love shows) focuses less on the finding love aspect but on the competition between young women, emphasizing on verbal and physical fights, berating other women, and competing for the man.”

I feel like this is true based on everything we have seen on MTV as Lexi has stated. Also, I think it shows us how love should be or even how to get someone to love you for all the makeup or even what girls or women are wearing. It comes back to discourse and how the five stages is a huge influence on teen girls. They want to become into women that they might think is pretty for other people but not themselves. When Lexi wrote about what Douglas argues it gave me that light bulb that turned on because it brought me back to the moment where my boyfriend’s sister went to prom and everyone started to notice her even the people she never talked to. These two readings made me connect with what Lexi’s has commented/questioned on her post, and it all came together.

Question: I wondered after reading these two articles and replying to Lexi’s comment/question, how many girls that are teens are influenced by their looks to impress men? Even more, so does these TV shows relevant to teens by watching what they are wearing?

Teen Vogue’s No Selfie Day and Website SelfieCity

Connections

Selfie City makes claims that “Investigating the style of self-portraits (selfies) in five cities across the world.” While examining selfies between 5 cities (Bangkok, Berlin, New York, Sao Paulo, and Moscow) they findings of the demographics, media visualizations, interactive self-explanatory, and essays discuss selfies.

Source by Selfie City

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Teen Vogue makes claims that ‘selfie’ exposes a very basic human desire — to feel noticed, appreciated and recognized". The fixation with selfies shows thing that I knew seen before. How teenagers take selfies then edit their favorite selfie, and make themselves feel good by using different apps to change different things about themselves.

Source by Teen Vogue

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Selfie matter because people want the attention and the respect from others that they think that are a big deal.

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How does this topic intersect with other readings we have done so far? These websites intersect with the three readings by connecting the ideas about teenagers, youth, and discourse. There are many key elements on how selfies are involved with media and how it affects your own ideology. Also, this topic touches on a huge part of Raby’s reading essential of discourse, because wanting to be noticed or desired by other people that are part of becoming a teenager and social problems is another part where it can be leading to be obsessed with what they need to look like.

How does it make teenagers feel about taking a selfie?

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I barely took a picture of myself, maybe only a few pictures of myself to show my family how I’m doing or what I look like because I don’t live near any of my family. So wants the point or purpose of wanting people to look at their selfie or wanting yourself to look like with tons a makeup or just your looks with different apps. Why would just those thing help when you and tell people through whose how you are on the outsides and inside?

Raby, “A Tangle of Discourses” (2002)

                   

ARGUMENT

The name of the text I will be blogging about today is; A Tangle of Discourses, and it is written by Rebecca C. Raby. Raby argues that discourse on teenagers has its own key elements and is disrupted by class, race, gender, and sexuality. Many people say that discourse on teenagers doesn’t portray how it used to be. Well, back then it isn’t clearly defined on how it is for everyone because everyone’s teenage years is different than everyone else's. Discourse and an adolescent have its own insight because it is displayed as “Experimenting, challenging and exploring in ways that may challenge….” (Pg. 22). For example, it can be typical for certain behaviors that not everyone will agree with, or not everyone will feel is truthful. If one asks themselves what is the purpose of being a rebel because this is what teenagers love. To them, it helps them to experiment or explore, but to some teenagers that isn’t the way the want to do those things. Discourse on teenagers cannot be a reflection based on other people, because it is different for everyone and how they experience or challenge themselves as teenagers. Instead of trying to replicate someone else’s teenage years. However, even though people may be aware to being rebellion or just teenagers being a tangle in discourse it does mean that anyone has less influence on adolescents.

            One question I had after reading this article is why do so many people honestly think they can replicate their teenage years on their own teenagers? I watch it on movies, and when I walk through stores and just overhear what they are talking about. Also, I feel like our parents never really told us about their rebellious years as teenagers, but when we get a lot older, they finally tell us. I feel like if they told us when we were going through the exact moment or something similar, they would say about what they did to make us feel better. 

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Media Matters Blog Post

 Facebook was the first social media that I tried, it was more to see what it was about at first. Then I got so invested in the social media part of Facebook that I wanted to add everyone I could think of even people I didn’t know. This shaped me as a teenager because it made me become more nosey and annoying kind of person. Also, I thought it would help me become more noticeable and famous because I was somewhat popular in middle school.

It was more than just drama, it was who I was in high school or just as a teenager. Drama was the best thing that I had until I realized it caused me to be more of a bad friend than just liking to talk to people. It wasn’t a good idea to be involved in the drama because it left me walking in the hallways alone. But also, it left me as a better person in the end because now I know how to deal with different situations even if they aren’t mine.

Media for me was not just Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, and etc. It was also dating websites. This media is called Plenty of Fish, it’s an online site that didn’t shape me into not a very good person. This site was the worst thing I ever did at first because it was a big influence on who I became as a person and what I did on my actions. Based on those choices I wasn’t aware of who I was hurting, and it was myself. Also, I was changing into a person I wasn’t away of, and it wasn’t who I really was. In the end, I found the right person to be with who influences me in the right way.

Bogad, “Framing Youth”

REFLECTION

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When I was reading “Framing Youth” by Bogad. I start to reflect when I was a teenager in high school I felt like I experienced many things that I have thought about when reading this. The one thing that stuck out so far that I can connect to my teenager life is, “We come to know youth as incomplete, in-transition, finding themselves, hormone-driven, emotional, inexperienced, and always in opposition to the adults in their lives” (pg. 1). This quote that was in the begin is a huge representation of myself completely. When I was in high school, I was going through multiple experiences like; transitioning to high school, trying to find who I am and who I was. Most of all I was involved in my parents’ divorce when I was a junior. I felt emotional, hormone -driven and incomplete when this timing was happening.  I feel like Bogad wanted her readers to understand, “Any “truth” to the experience of adolescence” (pg. 10) I feel like the overall theme is adolescence. This connects to my life a lot because of the “truth” to experience adolescence. When I told what my parents and other people experienced when they were teenagers. The fact is we experience everything differently, even when I was a teenager I experienced the emotional side of things, but I grew up mentally and acting more like I was in my twenties taking care of stuff I thought I wasn't supposed to do as a teen.  

A video I love is called "Changing the World, One Word at a Time!" I’m going to be showing this tomorrow in class for my media artifact, so if you guys want to get a head start on what you think about it go ahead. This video connects with a lot of text we are talking about in our classes and how teenagers are represented.

My question for this post is; why do people expect teenagers to act the same way they did when they were teenagers? What I mean by that is a lot of people say when I was a teenager I never did that or back when I was a teen I wasn’t able to do this or was able to this. It’s like people are comparing teenagers to themselves when they shouldn’t.

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